Do I have a choice?
Back in the summer of 2013, I began exploring the question of whether God might be calling me to a vocation to religious life. That might seem like a pretty uncontroversial question – but I had happily been in seminary for 3 years already, and many expected me to become a Diocesan priest in 4 years.
The decision before me was not between something bad and something good, but between two goods. I felt my own reservations about the challenges of religious life, and also the potential of disappointing the expectations of everyone.
But a wise priest at that time said something I will never forget: “whether you become a Resurrectionist, or a Diocesan Priest, or whether you leave seminary and get married, it must be your own choice and not someone else’s. And I will support you whatever you choose.” That was extremely freeing for me, and helped me to make a choice that – though it has not always been easy – to this day I have not regretted.
Sometimes we can feel pressured to make decisions, and if the decisions involve God, the pressure can seem completely overwhelming. But the truth is – God really does give us a choice. And God even gives us the freedom to say No. The real question is – what is it that we are really choosing by our Yes or No?